The Most Important Question You Must Ask Yourself

Lesson 2
The Most Important Question You Must Ask Yourself
The first main issue regarding Father’s rights is delivering the “right” message. What is that message, “your” message? What do you say to the court, to the opposing side and to all concerned, including potential evaluators, that is compelling, that is magnetic, that cannot be ignored, that must be responded to? Do you have a great message? We’re going to ask some questions and find out.Secondly, who do you say it to, and by deliberate strategy who do you not say it to? Being efficient in your case. Are you efficient? Are you smart about this? Or are you throwing mud against the wall? We’re going to ask some questions and find out. And third, the “packaging”, how are you prepared to deliver the message to the recipients? Do you do that effectively? Do you do that efficiently? Do you do that in a way that makes your message “easy to follow” magnetically attracting them to your cause? We’re going to take a look at that.So in each of these three things, I’m going to give you one or two key ideas to take with you. And for starters, I want to send you home with the single most important question anybody’s going to ask you about your case.Master this one question, you take a quantum leap in ability to gain what you want for yourself and for your children.. This is the single most important question because the right answer to it, as I’ll demonstrate, is the key to the father’s rights vault. It doesn’t just marginally increase your chances, it multiplies them far beyond the ability of most father’s to even conceive. It’s that important. And I’ll give you a model, a demonstration.Now the technical term for the answer to this question is what differentiates you from all others, direct and indirect. And here’s the question. Why should the judge Guardian Ad Litem or Evaluators, give you what you’re asking for versus doing what they usually do – going along with the Mother? Why should they choose to do business with you, so to speak, versus any and every other option available to them? And when you have a great answer to that question, you can turn things upside-down.
How Passion, Overcoming Fear of the Unknown and Persistence Can Turn Your Case Into A Father’s Rights Winning Machine
In Lesson 1 we talked about being prepared, now, I’m going to give you a model to use to take that one step further. A model of one of the best approaches a Father can use in seeking his rights and those of his children. And, here’s the model:You must be prepared in writing prior to the hearing in such a manner that your paperwork is professional in every regard; so that it looks and smells and feels just like what “they’re” used to looking at. Then, you must overcome any fear or apprehension that you may have by presenting your message with an “impassioned emotional approach,” while letting “all” involved know that you’ll never give up! That’s it!
So what you want to do with this model is lay it down next to your own situation, and see how it compares. And, if it doesn’t compare very well, then this one’s a good place to start to build an unbeatable case.All too often, we as father’s are defeated before we begin. We listen to everyone tell us that we can’t win and that it’s no use. But, nothing could be further from the truth. I have an arsenal of father’s that have won “all” or most of what they wanted with their kids and regarding all other aspects of their cases; all by following the above model.
On the strength of this model many father’s not only almost immediately turned their cases around, but multiplied their successes. Pretty soon, some even dominated their cases and won custody. This unique model has been so powerful – think about this – that for many father’s you could go anywhere in the courthouse or in the legal community in which they reside, picking people at random and chances are they would know these father’s. This is what a good job they’ve done and how “convicted” they were about what they wanted and what was right for them and for their children. Believe me, word gets around when you’re “pushy” for the right reasons!If we go to your courthouse tomorrow and ask people about you and most instantly respond by telling us about you, how persistent you are and what a great job you do, what’s your case going to look like? That’s called case dominance. That’s what many father’s achieve. They turn their cases upside-down and had the opposing side trying to catch up. You can do it too, with the leverage the above model will give you.Now, if you’ve used portions of the model previously, that’s all well and good. But what I’ve said should hopefully motivate you not just to guess and shrug, but to want to microscopically analyze this “entire model” to find clues that you can use to strengthen your own case.So the first little homework assignment is to think about why should the court and others give you what you want versus granting the opposing side what they want? How’s your answer? How’s your message?
Second, let’s just assume you figured all that out. Let’s assume you’ve got a great case message. At its core is passion and persistence. We’re excited about getting it into court, mediation or to others that need to hear our message. It’s so good we’re ready to take on whatever the court system throws at us. Here’s the next challenge: The world’s greatest case message is no better than the world’s worst case message if it’s shouted at deaf ears. We do this a lot. Most father’s are not any more sophisticated about pleading their cases than they were two decades ago. In fact, here’s the level of sophistication that most father’s unfortunately settle for. Print up some sloppily written paperwork and argue that what’s happening “just ain’t fair!” Now they go to court and hope. We can do better. And in lesson 3, I'll reveal how and why we can easily do better. www.fathershelphotline.com