The Electrifying Power Of "Perseverance

Lesson 1
The Electrifying Power Of "Perseverance"
In this 7-part course, I'm going to give specific, usable, 1-2-3 Father's Rights strategies that apply to any Father, in any situation, that have you seeing results in your case within 90 days or less. I’m going to give you one complete strategy you can use exactly as I describe it to you at the end of this course, that you will be able to go and apply and I can make a virtual certain bet that none of you are using it exactly as I will describe it to you, but that most of you can. And again, you will be able to see results in your case in 90 days or less as a result.
So we’re going to do some real practical stuff. I am here to help you "improve" your case, spend more time with your kids and reduce your child support to the lowest possible level.
There are a couple of things I ‘d like you to know about me before we get rolling. One: There are a lot of what I call the “pretend experts,” the folks who live in their past, remembering cases only in their nightmares, and now "litter" the internet telling father's how to do what it is that even they haven't done. It's a whole lot easier to write a book than it is to do it. Or, that they did it so long ago that their information just no longer matters.
I only make speeches or give interviews about 4-5 times a year. It’s only a small part of my life. The rest of my life is like yours. It’s in the real world, dealing with clients who have "real life" problems with child support, custody issues and "nasty" X wives.......major "life" issues. Everything we talk about here today will be reality-based, not theory-based and patterned after the vicarious experiences of other Father's who were in the same position as you may be in today; and, that is very important!
Do You Hate These Things Too?
I have two hate lists for you that pretty much summarize where we’re going to go in this course. If you're involved in a case and sign a child support check every month, then one of the key things on your list of things that you hate should be being what I call a “wallet with legs.” When I say that, you should get a mental picture. That’s when you get the big, black checkbook out and you sign one of those checks over to your "X", and you know that it's not going to the kids but to support "her" lifestyle.
I had that same queasy feeling when I signed that check. Bet you do, too. Going to show you how to reduce or eliminate it, how to make every dollar you spend on support count as much as possible for your kids; making every dollar trackable, accountable, measurable, and come back to you in the form of peace of mind!
If you aren't the primary parent for your kids through no fault of your own, number one on your hate list should be the "X" telling you what to do with the kids on your time or, otherwise, frustrating your access to them!! An old friend of mine would call that "controlling" and "rude." I agree! There's nothing pleasant about the process of trying to talk to the "X" on a reasonable basis when she sticks her nose into everything you do with the kids and tries to keep them from you on a frequent basis --- acting as those they're her personal possessions --- at least emotionally, if not physically. The conflict causes you to back away from the kids faster than moving towards them.
I grew up in the Detroit Michigan, where the Winter's are cold and the salt on the streets in the Winter corrodes your car. And to me, dealing with the "X" on these issues is like dealing with a corroded car in the dead of Winter. It’s frigid work and corrodes your heart. So regardless of what you have done before, as a result of what we do in this course you should never have to deal with these situations again as long as you live. I’m going to show you how to eliminate them, as much as possible, from your existence and change the way you interact with the "X" …..spending more time with your kids.
“From Annoying Pest To Welcome Guest”
One quick story to set the stage for where we’re going to go, then we’ll roll up our sleeves and get to work. This story gets us acquainted and sets our direction.
In my business I work with many different kinds of people, intelligent, average, dumb, those that speak English, those that don't, those that have court experience, those that don't and people everywhere in between.
So, generally, the question almost always come up "How can I do this myself, I don't feel comfortable in court?"
I remember years ago, I was working with a nice fellow from the Philippines who could barely speak English and who acted scared as hell of going to court because of it! One of the things that I do most often is act as a kind of cheerleader trying to convince father's that they "can" do this as long as they're prepared. It doesn't matter if you can speak English or not, or even if you're scared as hell. If you're prepared, in writing and package your case correctly, you'll do as well as anyone.
So, this guy spends a great deal of time writing up a responsive declaration to a restraining order that his wife is trying to obtain against him. He also responds to her false and/or grossly distorted allegations involving parenting and divorce, serves everything correctly...to all the right parties and files everything correctly at the different departments of the court. He goes to court with the following strategy.....he says to the judge "your honor, I'm a little nervous today, so I've taken the time to put everything I have to say in writing." "If you have any questions, your honor, please ask me."
Well, here's what happens, because the guy spoke very little English, acted nervous and had the "guts" to be there in the first place, the judge actually began helping him out...actually jumping on his side, chewing out the "X" wife for bringing such an outrageous request before the court and scolding her for trying to keep the kids from him. The judge not only gave him what he wanted, he asked if it was enough! True story!
Amazing....not really...no matter what your situation, whether child support, visitation, custody, modifications of child support, custody or visitation modifications, divorce, wage garnishments, drivers license suspensions or other father's rights issues, take heart in knowing that preparation is the key! Becoming aware of basic court rules and procedures and, coupled together with a little ambition….writing up a basic response…..can work wonders in your case. Really!
Now, here’s what’s instructive. Here’s what’s useful.
At that precise moment in court for my Philippino friend, he went from being the most annoying pest to the most welcomed guest ever to visit the courtroom, because he was there with a sincere, well prepared, message at just the right moment in time. Now, the reason it’s instructive is because know it or not, acknowledge it or not, like hearing it or not, the vast majority of the time that you try and communicate with your " X", her attorney or the court you are categorized as a pest, not as the most welcomed guest of the day, week, month or year. And I’m here to tell you that if you discover how to change that – I call it addressing the first square on the father's rights game board – if you change that, you automatically change everything. Everything else suddenly gets easy if you become what we call a “can-do father's rights advocate.”But other than that, here’s my contention. If you want to increase the odds of improving your case, if you want to spend more time with your kids, if you want to protect your assets and give her a higher percentage of the debts, if you want to establish paternity with a full set of father's rights, if you want to pay as little child support as possible and make certain that what you do pay goes to the kids, you don’t do it with a slick presentation and a new magic seven-word manipulative phrase you pop out of your mouth at the hearing like Perry Mason. You do it from the beginning of the process with preparation and the will to persevere! And, if you become a "can-do father's rights advocate'" as we’re going to talk about, then your odds of success goes way up without improving your legal knowledge whatsoever and ..without an attorney if you so choose..But if you want to remain too scared to try, that’s fine. My contention, though, is if you want to improve your personal case, you don’t need experience and you don't necessarily need an attorney. Instead, what you do is become a welcomed-guest in the court room by being prepared, in writing prior to the hearing. This shows respect for the court's process and the court becomes more prone to grant what you're asking for.So that’s what we're all about. That’s what we do for our clients....we prepare them for court by giving them as much legal information as possible. Not legal advice, just solid legal information based upon what other successful father's have done in their situations. Every time we do it and build a relationship with a new client, we cover three main issues. We deal with three steps. I’m going to run you through them very quickly in lesson 2. www.fathershelphotline.com