How To Dominate Your Case In 45 Days Or Less At Little Or No Cost To You

Lesson 4
How To Dominate Your Case In 45 Days Or Less At Little Or No Cost To You
Here’s the next challenge. How do you take the message you so lovingly crafted and deliver it to the people who are influential in your case, in a way that’s effective, efficient, affordable and involves little or no emotional turmoil – I’m philosophically opposed to getting emotionally involved – and will always “opt” for a systematic, well planned approach that keeps you involved with the case. How do you do that?Well, if you make a list, and if you stop to think about it, there are many things you can do to prepare your case. Dependent upon your specific case, you can begin keeping a chronological diary of events, begin writing down what you want and why, begin obtaining sworn affidavits from people that attest to your abilities as a Father, draft a spread sheet listing assets and debts, close all joint accounts to protect your credit and assets and seek the services of a Pro-Father Attorney if you so choose. On and on and on and on. Here’s a couple of things you need to know. First of all, all that stuff works, and it all can be made to work better with good methods. But only a handful of all those things can be converted into a system. And system’s one of my favorite words. System means reliable, consistent, predictable results. You get it working once and then it keeps working on its own for a long, long, time before you have to tweak with it again.
We need a Father’s Rights Winning system. And the example I’m going to show you of a system is so predictable, so reliable, so consistent, that you go to bed at night, when you have this working for you, knowing – not hoping, wishing, not even praying, but knowing – within a small, acceptable range of variance, that good things will happen in your case, even if it takes a little time --- for as long as you use the system. And it’s like a thermometer. You can even turn it up or down to get more or less results anytime of the week, month or year that you want them. It’s that scientific. So I’m going to show you one example of one system. This example does several things. It demonstrates to you what a system ought to look like, versus just catch as catch can. It shows you how to take a message, deliver it to the right people in a way that’s effective, efficient and affordable. And this one has a bonus to it. This one shows you how to begin the case and dominate it in 45 days or less with little or no financial cost. You become the dominant presence in your case. If you can define what you’re seeking whether you’re bringing a simple motion before the court, going through an evaluation, or working on a trial situation, in 45 days or less you’ll be a dominant force to reckon with. The players in the case know who you are, what you do and why they ought to do “business” with you,
A "Stolen" Strategy
There’s a couple of caveats, things I have to tell you about this before I show it to you. The first is I stole it. I’m a huge believer in creative theft. Frankly some of the “best” ideas are stolen and the older I get the less interested I am in blazing a new path. Pioneers come home full of arrows. So I’m interested in stuff that works.
But I get to do something you don’t get to do. Over the last 19 years, I’ve worked with clients in 5 different countries and in every State in the Union. So you, today’s a weird day for you because you’re in a position that you’ve never been in before and it’s an emotional meat grinder! But whether you realize it or not, you belong to a nationwide fraternity of Father’s that have already “plowed” the way for you. They’ve already found success, tried the new techniques, taken the bumps and bruises and fount the appropriate winning actions for you.
All great advancements come from outside the box, not inside the box. As a Father’s Rights consultant, I get to work with Father A in a given State. And because everybody’s mostly closed minded, while I’m working with him I notice something that’s phenomenally effective. Hardly anybody in other areas is doing it but could be doing it. I borrow it from case to case, count to county, state to state and I take it over and I teach it to Father B in another area entirely. And while I’m over there, I notice something he may be doing that hardly anybody else is doing but could be doing. So I borrow it from Father B and I take it back and I teach it to Father A. I call this the Mirroring Principle which is basically copying what works. The advantage that I have, that you don’t, is that I see a multiplicity of cases on a day to day basis and you don’t!
This particular system I’m going to show you as an example I borrowed over the last, almost, 20 years, by observation and personal experience in 1,000’s of cases. Success breeds success and the way you gain success is to copy people that know what they’re doing.
Another word for this technique is called “farming” and I stole it from the Real Estate business. What they mean, if you hear them talking about farming, what a realtor means by farming is getting a small, carefully-selected, manageable target market, and then nurturing it, setting out to become a dominant presence.
From a Father’s Rights perspective this means getting to know all of the players in your case. Not personally, necessarily, but know them well enough to know what they want from you in order for them to give you what you want. Even cross-pollinating a bit like a bee dropping off and picking up bits of information here and there that are to your benefit; making everyone know what the other players are doing, or, hiding it, dependent upon what’s the most advantageous to your case at the time.
The Biggest Mistake Most Father’s Make
The biggest mistake Father’s make in using this method is “not” thinking outside the box. They assume, for instance, that the “X” and her attorney are “not” players. They’re dead wrong! The judges, the judges bailiff, your attorney if you have one, her attorney, Guardian Ad Litems, evaluators, court clerks and even the “X” are all players that may be able to help you gain what you’re looking for. [And this is a short list – be creative – think!]
Now, two quick caveats:
First of all, be Pro-Active in your case and stay on the offense. Most Father’s are reactive instead of proactive! They’re constantly acting like retrievers, running after every little argument that the “X” throws at them.
Which brings me to the second caveat. As soon as I start to talk about it, one-third of the ears in the room flop right over. “Man, we’ve tried being Pro-Active. It doesn’t work in our state. A couple things about that.
First of all, you and I go through life only doing the things that work real, real well for us the very first time we do them.
Secondly, you have not tried being Pro-Active the way I’m going to show you how to be Pro-Active. In fact, almost every Father makes this mistake when they do try it. They get all hyped up and start out positive, then, go to court and almost no matter what happens, ugly, bad, good, they never keep being Pro Active. Or if they do, it’s three, six, eight months later and extremely inconsistent.
Don’t waste your time. Never do a one-shot approach. Let me explain to you why that can’t work.
The last thing the “X” wants to hear from you from the beginning stages of the case [with rare exceptions] is a settlement offer. However, as the case develops and you continue to place pressure on the other side by appealing every little order and filing your own motions in a persistent pattern, emotions and circumstances change. Again, it’s like fishing, you never know when they’ll bite.
What makes Father’s think they can make one offer, or file one motion and get a positive response, it’s a mystery to me. This is especially true when most women expect you to roll over and give them what they want just because they rant, rave, and otherwise, make themselves a complaining nuisance in court. Your single offer doesn’t even phase her – she doesn’t even feel the breeze.
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