The Famous "Impossible Case" Story

Lesson 6
The Famous "Impossible Case" Story
This story is a real important story. Here’s everything it does.First of all, it takes everything we talked about and a few things we didn’t, and stitches them together in chronologically applicable order, so you see how they work. Secondly, it does it in a real-life situation. This is a true-life example. Third, it does it with an extremely disagreeable “X” most of you would never expect to settle, thereby demonstrating if this guy can do it, you can do it too. Fourth, it gives you a complete, as I promised you at the beginning of our time together, a Father’s Rights strategy, a system, step-by-step, that you can walk out of here and use exactly as it is described to you in this story, and see results in your case; perhaps in a short period of time.
One day, I get a phone call from a guy right here in my own home town of Seattle, Washington. He’s calls me, as so many Father’s do with the “impossible case.” He’s so depressed and at his wits end about his situation --- not being able to see his kids, false allegations by the “X” against him regarding him abusing his kids, and a nasty child support order which garnishes his wages, leaving him with next to nothing to live on. This guy was desperate for help!
A Deadly Mistake
The point is that this guy is desperate and willing to try anything; while most Father’s are not. Don’t make this flagrant mistake.
So, I consoled him for a minute and then hit him with what he needed to do….follow the system. I gave him a brief history how to go about it and he began the process.
Of course he was skeptical, but, so distraught that he had nothing to lose.
He began by sending the first letter to his “X” making it a really impassioned message. Of course, no response. A couple of weeks later he sent a follow up letter, still no response. All the while, he was defending himself in court on multiple hearings and going through a series of parenting and anger management evaluations. And, he fought vigorously by the way!
Because he was feeling a little better about things, in fact, empowered for the first time in a couple of months, he began filing his own motions in court without an attorney and appealed every order of the court --- bumping things upstairs out of the family court and into the court of appeals.
He became very organized and offered sworn affidavits from family and friends contradicting his “X”’s statements and submitted these to the evaluators. He also filed them into the record at the courthouse.
Again, he sent a further letter offering to mediate with her and to come to some sort of settlement that made sense for everyone concerned; particularly the kids. Again, no response.
So, he got the bright idea [from the system of course] to file a tort claim lawsuit against the “X”, her attorney and several people that testified against him. He told me “you should have seen their faces when they got served.” In fact, he immediately got a phone call from the “X”’s attorney …. Yelling at him and telling him he didn’t know what he was doing and that he couldn’t sue. My guy proceeded to tell Mr. Attorney that he obviously didn’t understand cause he already did it! It was becoming fun now!
Yet, my client didn’t lose sight of the system which is to create pressure to gain relief!
Again, he sent a letter to the “X” offering to talk about settlement and something that made sense. By this time, of course, she had heard from all her family and friends that were part of the lawsuit; something she created by being such a b___ !
All of a sudden, after 6 months, she sent him an email chewing him out and asking him who he thought he was; but, near the end of the email she said she might be willing to concede on some issues; but, that she’d have to have custody and still needed money.
WOW! This guy called me immediately and was “giddy” with joy. He said that this was the first time progress of any sort was seen. I was happy for him, of course, but warned him not to let his guard down and “keep working the system.”
Now, think about this for a second, because two important things just happened. Not only did it look like the “X” was beginning to soften, my guy was really enthused now!
There’s more to his story, but, I think you get the point. And, there are many, many more techniques this guy hadn’t even used yet.
If he stops there, it’s a giant epic waste. Think of what has to happen now for it this situation to turn into an actual settlement. He has to meet with her, propose his ideas, listen to hers and come to an agreement. Fat change huh? No, wrong again. He’s closer than he thinks.
Now, I’m going to tell you the rest of the story, mostly for fun. It makes one important point. But let’s do 30 seconds of analysis. This Father did everything we talked about brilliantly. Let’s analyze his case settlement campaign.
Anatomy Of A Killer Settlement Campaign
This Father our “settlement genius,” feels much better about the case and himself while exerting “real” pressure on the other side to settle.
The first seed he plants in the mind of the “X” and her attorney is that “this guys not giving up and becoming a real pain the a__!” This guys really feeling his oats now!
He then throws his case in overdrive by suing everyone involved with defaming his character and denying him his rights with his children.
He essentially creates an offer they can’t refuse. You know, like in the Godfather. He creates an offer that transcends timing. He did everything we talked about brilliantly. And if this guy can do it you can do it.
The Rest Of The Story
Now, for fun, this Father sets up mediation and his wife agrees, virtually no resemblance between the old uncooperative “X” and the “new X.”
At mediation she still digs in her heels a bit but the important point is that she is at the negotiation table; where prior to Al’s implementation of our system Al wasn’t even in the ballpark.
Now, mediation continues for several sessions and our Father and the “X” actually agree on several points except a new parenting plan for the kids, the amount of money she’ll get paid every month for child support and for the maintenance that she was still demanding.
Our guy smelled blood at this point even though the “X” wasn’t agreeing to everything. He sensed that the “X” really didn’t want to jump back into the arena --- he smelled fear for the first time.
8 sessions later and a little concession on his part and the parties struck a settlement.
Now, it’s easy to sit here and read this nice neat little story summarizing almost a year of this guys life and think that that’s all well and good, but, “I’m sitting here in the trenches slugging it out.” Believe me, it can happen to you too!
But, it won’t all be a bed of roses. There are problems with every case, even if we had three times as many lessons we couldn’t solve every conceivable problem in every single case. And we don’t even try to solve everything in this short course.
I want to talk about the problems and how to solve them in our final lesson. www.fathershelphotline.com